Truth or Consequences

Exodus 20:16

July 26, 1992 | Ray Pritchard

When I was growing up my mother had a little rhyme she often repeated to her four sons. You probably heard it many times while you were growing up:

Sticks and stones may break my bones

But words will never hurt me.

As much as I hate to admit it, my mother (who wasn’t wrong about many things) was way off base with that little rhyme. If you analyze those words, they might be called the Stoic’s Credo, for only a person who denies his emotions can truly say “words will never hurt me.”

A truer version might go something like this:

Sticks and stones may make me curse

But cruel words will hurt much worse.

While not as inspirational (you’ll never see that on a Hallmark card), it is much closer to reality. However badly sticks and stones may hurt, the pain of cruel words is always much worse. After all, sticks and stones crush the body; cruel words crush the soul. You can kill with cutting words as easily as with sharpened sticks and jagged stones.

Truth in Short Supply

Tonight I’ve been watching Ross Perot on the Larry King show. Will he run or won’t he? If he does, will he drop out again? When he says, “I’m going to let the people decide,” does he really mean it? Can we trust him?

Come to think of it, can we trust the other two guys? Is there anyone out there we can trust?

Let’s face it. We live in a cynical age when truth is in short supply.

—The polls show we don’t think our leaders are telling us the truth.

—The motto this year seems to be: “Tell the truth as long as it is convenient.”

—As the election draws near, it’s open season on the truth.

—One campaign has a “Truth Squad.”

—The other has a “Department of Defense.”

—”If you lie about me, I’m going to lie about you.”

—In the process, truth is first devalued, and then lost altogether.

—Everyone says, “It’s going to get dirty before it’s all over.”

After the 1988 election, one politician in Fort Worth, Texas, summed up the basic reason why Michael Dukakis was such an ineffective candidate: “He forgot the first rule of knife fighting. There are no rules.”

But there is one rule that towers above all the rest. We might call it the First Rule of Human Relationships. “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.” Or as the King James Version puts it, “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.”

In a world where words are many and truth is cheap, we are to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Flip the Ninth Commandment over and it reads like this: “You must not tamper with the truth.”

A Quick Bible Survey

Consider this brief sample of what the Bible says on this subject:

Psalm 12:22—”Everyone lies to his neighbor; their flattering lips speak with deception.”

Proverbs 6:16-19—”There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him … a lying tongue … a false witness who pours out lies.”

Proverbs 14:5—”A truthful witness does not deceive, but a false witness pours out lies.”

Ephesians 4:25—”Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor.”

Colossians 3:9—”Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices.”

Revelation 21:8—”But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters, and all liars—their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur.”

From these verses alone we can safely conclude that truth matters greatly to God. Not only does truth matter, telling the truth matters to God. But we can go one step further and say that God hates those who willfully choose to lie.

Truth matters to God! That’s the message of the Ninth Commandment.

I. What This Commandment Forbids

Let me suggest eight specific areas that are covered by this Commandment.

A. Lying Under Oath

Lying under oath (or perjury) is the most basic issue in view in the Ninth Commandment. It is a measure of these relativistic times that most of us would hardly consider this a major issue. Lying under oath? Sure, it’s wrong, we all know, but we see our leaders do it so often that it doesn’t seem like a big issue to us.

But William Barclay lists several dozen Scriptures in the Old Testament that repeatedly show how much the Jews feared and hated this crime. He also points out that false witnesses were used against Jesus during his trial (Matthew 26:59-60). He notes that “the man who refuses to give evidence, when he has evidence to give, is condemned as severely as the man who gives false evidence … The sin of silence is as real as the sin of speech.” (pp. 184-185)

He sums up the matter this way:

The Jewish law was so arranged that a witness was compelled to think of his responsibility for the truth. Jewish thought hated false witness; Jewish law condemned false witness; and Jewish regulations did everything to make a witness hesitate to tell anything but the truth. (p. 187)

Note that Deuteronomy 19:16-21 prescribes that if a man gave false testimony in court, then he would be pun-ished with whatever penalty would have been inflicted upon the person against whom he gave the false testi-mony. “The rest of the people will hear of this and be afraid, and never again will such an evil thing be done among you.”

B. The Direct Lie

Here we are thinking of the deliberate, premeditated lie—such as the time when Jacob deceived his father Isaac by pretending to be his brother Esau.

C. The Subjective Lie

This is the lie in which you arrange the facts in such a way that, while not directly lying, you allow others to believe that which is not true. An example would be the case of Joseph’s brothers bringing back his bloody coat to their father Jacob. Although they had dipped the coat in sheep’s blood, they allowed Jacob to come to the false conclusion that Joseph had been torn apart by wild animals. A second example would be Judas kissing Jesus—an insincere gesture of feigned friendship.

D. Keeping Quiet When You Know the Truth

Keeping quiet is a lie because, by not testifying, you allow either an innocent party to be wrongly convicted or you allow a guilty party to be wrongly set free. In such a case, Leviticus 5:1 says that the person remaining silent will be “held responsible” for his silence. Keeping silent is a crime that God will not overlook.

E. Slander

Slander is making false accusations against another person. Potiphar’s wife was guilty of slander when she falsely accused Joseph of raping her. This is a particularly virulent form of lying because it is usually passed along through gossip, rumor and innuendo. Note that Romans 1:29 lists slander as one of the marks of a depraved lifestyle. It is an outward mark of a life that does not know God.

F. Flattery

Once again we come to an area of biblical truth that probably surprises us. Again and again the Psalmist condemns those who lie “with flattering lips.” Flattery is the sin of insincere compliments. We call it butter-ing up or kissing up or hugging up. God hates it because flattery uses the cover of feigned friendship to gain an unfair advantage over others.

G. Careless Exaggeration

This is the sin of preachers … politicians … and all salesmen. It’s the sin of those who “over-promise and under-deliver.” It’s what happens when you promise delivery on the 10th when you know full well that the factory can’t deliver until the 18th. It’s what happens when you promise a price that you know is impossibly low. It’s what happens when you brag about features your new car either doesn’t have or aren’t as good as you claim them to be.

H. Lying to God

This is what happens when you make a promise to God and do not keep it. Sometimes we talk about “fox-hole religion,” meaning those crisis times in life where we promise to serve God faithfully if only he will get us out of trouble. Or we make a decision in a church service to change our ways … but when the service is over, nothing really changes.

That’s lying to God. It’s what Ananias and Sapphira did in Acts 5 when they pretended to give all the money but actually held back some of it. They were lying to God, and as a result they were struck dead in the presence of the whole congregation.

Lest that sound brutal, remember the words of Ecclesiastes 5. It is better not to make a vow than to make a vow and then break it. God hates that. Don’t mess with God. It’s better just to keep your mouth shut.

Why Is This Sin So Terrible?

The list above barely scratches the surface of all the Bible has to say about lying. There is much more that could be said—both about the kinds of lies God condemns and the terrible results of a dishonest life.

Why is this sin condemned so frequently and in such strong terms? What’s so terrible about lying?

1. It destroys society.

2. It wrecks homes.

3. It splits churches.

4. It fractures families.

5. It poisons every human relationship.

6. It cauterizes the conscience.

7. It condemns the soul.

We may say it very simply:

Truth leads to heaven … for God is truth.

Lying leads to hell … because Satan is the father of lies.

II. What This Commandment Demands

We can sum up the positive demands of the Eighth Commandment in three simple statements. God wants …

A. Truthfulness in our Words

B. Honesty in our Relationships

C. Integrity in our Lifestyle

Truthfulness … honesty … integrity. Unfortunately, it is easier to write these words than to live up to their high demands. Truthfulness means an end to verbal sloppiness; honesty means I can’t play games with people—implying things that aren’t really true; integrity means a life that is open for all to see.

If you put those three words together, you come up with this: Transparent living. That means what you see is what you get. No deception, no dishonesty, no con games.

A Man Without Guile

It’s funny, but when I devised those three statements I suddenly remembered an incident from my seminary days. It was something one of my professors said in class that just popped into my mind.

Dr. John Walvoord was president of Dallas Theological Seminary for over 30 years. He is best known for his many books on Bible prophecy, including the recent best-seller Oil, Armageddon and the Middle East Crisis. He was a big man with a commanding presence and when I was a student, I was always a bit intimidated by him.

One day in Greek class Dr. Harold Hoehner was talking about Dr. Walvoord when he made this comment: “Dr. Walvoord is a man without guile.” He went on to say this: “When he speaks, you don’t have to wonder what he really means. What you see is what you get.”

“A man without guile … what you see is what you get.” Those words flashed into my mind as I thought about the phrase “transparent living.” Then it occurred to me that I’ve never heard anyone else described as being “without guile.”

Is that because so few of us really live transparent lives?

Wesley Pippert on Integrity

Wesley Pippert, a well-known UPI correspondent, offers these trenchant words on the importance of integrity:

One of the most effective disciplines I know is not to do something that first time—for repeti-tion will come far easier … Not doing something for the first time is a tremendous bulwark against not doing it later. As moral philosopher Sissela Bok has said … “It is easy to tell a lie but hard to tell only one.” Discipline will help us avoid the guilt that we often experience by dabbling in things we shouldn’t. Few things are more important than whether one has a good reputation, a “good name.” Not all people are gregarious or outgoing. Not all people are sought after or loveable. But everyone can have integrity. Integrity flows more out of a disciplined character than a daring personality. (Cited by Kent Hughes in Disciplines of a Godly Man, p. 127)

“It’s easy to tell a lie but hard to tell only one.” Now that’s a true statement. How many of us have tried to lie our way out of trouble but like Dennis the Menace have only gotten ourselves in deeper and deeper? We say one thing to Mr. Wilson, one thing to our buddies, something else to our parents. Then we can’t remember what we said to anyone.

Integrity means saying the same thing all the time!

The Hardest Truth To Tell

I’m sure you heard this little saying:

Sow an act, reap a habit.

Sow a habit, reap a character.

Sow a character, reap a destiny.

Seen in that light, we may say that there is no such thing as a “little white lie.” There is no such thing as a “socially-necessary deception.” Every act whether good or bad contributes to a habit which develops our character which determines our destiny.

Truth-telling is crucial, and the hardest truth you will ever tell is the truth about yourself! After 14 years as a pastor, and having spent hundreds of hours counseling with hundreds of people, I have concluded that 90% of the solution to any problem is having the courage to tell the truth.

The people who dare to tell the truth about themselves are the people who begin to get better!

Is it painful? You bet!

Is it scary? Of course!

Is it easy? No way!

But those people who swallow their fear, endure their pain, and decide to take the hard road of truth … they are the ones who get better. I have seen marriages saved by truth-telling and I have seen marriages crumble because of inner deception.

A few weeks ago someone came to see me with a serious personal problem. He didn’t cover up the truth and he didn’t try to blame anyone else for his own stupidity. He simply and honestly told the truth. When our session was over, I said to him, “You are 90% of the way home. The hardest part was deciding to tell the truth. It’s going to get better from here.”

That’s a principle I profoundly believe. Whenever someone has the courage to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth—especially about themselves—they are going to get better!

Why We Don’t Get Better

I learned this truth myself a few years ago when I suddenly found myself without a job. Unless you’ve ever been in that place it’s hard to explain what it feels like. Suddenly you have plenty of time of on your hands. Suddenly you have no place to go in the morning. Suddenly you have time to think about yourself, your life, and what kind of person you have become.

All that happened to me when I lost my job. When my brother Ron heard about it, he offered to fly me to Jackson, Mississippi, to meet with a counselor. He even purchased the tickets so I could make the trip. I flew in, spent the night, had a session with the counselor and then flew back home. A few days later, Ron sent me some material the counselor had written. On one of the sheets he had done a take-off on the words of Jesus in John 8:31, “You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” The counselor had added the phrase:

“The truth shall make you free … but it will hurt you first.”

When I read that, a light when on in my head. I saw myself in a brand-new way. One reason I wasn’t getting better was because I didn’t want the truth to hurt me first. It was easier to avoid the truth because the truth about my own life was too painful to bear.

Then everything clicked into place. That’s why so many people struggle with their problems for years. They don’t want the truth to hurt them … so they avoid the truth at all costs.

Do they want to get better? Absolutely.

Do they know the the truth? Intellectually, yes.

Then why don’t they get better? Because they won’t let the truth get close enough to hurt them. Instead, they erect a thousand defense mechanisms that deflect the truth before it hits home.

Which explains why you can go to church for years, listen to sermons for years, read the Bible and pray for years … and still not get better.

“The truth shall make you free … but it will hurt you first.”

When you are finally willing to be hurt by the truth about yourself, then—and only then—will you be set free.

III. How to Become a More Truthful Person

Let’s wrap this up with three simple suggestions for becoming a more truthful person:

A. Practice Creative Silence

Proverbs 10:19 says, “Where words are many, sin is not absent; but he who holds his tongue is wise.”

Proverbs 11:12 declares, “A man of understanding holds his tongue.”

Proverbs 13:3 adds, “He who guards his tongue guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.”

Proverbs 21:23 tells us that “He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity.”

Truth-telling begins with silence. Speak less and you will speak more truthfully. The more you say, the more likely you are to exaggerate, to slander, to mislead and to stretch the truth.

What is creative silence? Here is the key: It means praying while you are listening. Most of us don’t listen very well anyway. When someone else is talking, we’re busy trying to figure out what we are going to say next. No wonder we don’t communicate!

Creative silence means listening more, saying less, and praying instead of interrupting.

Pray for wisdom!

Pray for God’s guidance!

Pray for understanding!

Pray for God’s love to be manifested in your speech!

The Bible is clear on this point. The more we speak, the less truth we tell. If we want to become more truthful, the first step is to speak less.

B. Practice Personal Accountability

I have already suggested that one reason we don’t get better is that we are afraid to let the truth get close enough to hurt us. In particular, we’re afraid that if others know the truth about the way we really are, they won’t love us or accept us. Therefore, we live behind our well-constructed masks, pretending to have it all together, playing the religious game, going through all the “right” motions, never admitting that inside we are barely holding it together.

Would you like to be set free from that? Get into an accountability group. Find a group of two or three friends who will meet with you on a regular basis to hold you accountable in your personal life. Agree among yourselves to ask the hard questions and not to accept evasive answers.

It’s a simple principle. If you are truly good friends, you’ll be able to detect when someone in the group is blowing smoke. At that point, someone says, “OK, what’s really going on here?”

Good friends help other friends find the courage to tell the truth!

As Bill Miller often says, “You’re only as sick as your secrets.” Think about that. Once you let your dirty secrets out of the closet—about your hidden addictions, your closet sins, your unrevealed bad habits—they aren’t secrets any more. Then you can start getting better.

Truth-telling is made easier in the presence of a few caring friends.

C. Commit Yourself to Becoming a “Person of Truth”

A few years ago Scott Peck wrote a best-seller called People of the Lie. As Christians, we are called to be “People of the Truth.” After all, we know Jesus Christ who said, “I am the way, the truth and the life.” (John 14:6) When he stood before Pilate, he declared, “For this reason I was born, and for this I came into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone on the side of truth listens to me.” (John 18:37)

Are you on the side of truth?

D.L. Moody said, “Don’t argue about whether or not a stick is crooked. The way to tell is to put a straight stick down next to it.” We live in a crooked world where truth is routinely devalued and where falsehood is elevated to a way of life. God hasn’t called us to go around condemning all the falsehood and dishonesty. All we have to do is tell the truth and the dishonesty will be seen for what it really is.

If we will take the Ninth Commandment seriously, the truth will take care of itself.

“Against Your Neighbor”

One final point, and I am done. The Ninth Commandment adds a phrase we might tend to overlook: “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.” It is ironic, isn’t it, that you are most likely to lie to those you know the best and love the most.

—Your husband or your wife

—Your children

—Your parents

—Your best friends

—The people with whom you work

—Your neighbors

Once again we come face to face with the awful reality that this Commandment is not directed to the people “out there” but to the people “in here”—to those of us who name the name of God, who claim to know the Lord, who call ourselves followers of Jesus Christ.

The Ninth Commandment is for us!

We are the ones who need its message.

May I remind you that truth is not simply a verbal proposition. Truth is ultimately in a Person. That’s why Pilate’s question—”What is truth?”—has echoed and reverberated across the centuries. Truth to him was a philosophical proposition. Little did he know that the Truth was standing in front of him.

That’s why John 1:14 says that Jesus came to the earth “full of grace and truth.”

—To know Jesus is to know the Truth.

—To follow Jesus is to follow the Truth.

—To believe in Jesus is to believe the Truth.

—To love Jesus is to love the Truth.

That’s why truth-telling is so crucial for us. We know the Truth, we have believed the Truth, we have commit-ted ourselves to following the Truth. Therefore, we must become People of the Truth.

When will the lying end?

When God’s people decide to tell the truth!

Do you have any thoughts or questions about this post?