The ABC’s of Wisdom: Building Character with Solomon - Passion
The Flame That Keeps a Marriage Burning
A loving doe, a graceful deer-may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.
There are many secrets to a good marriage, such as respect, communication, commitment, forgiveness, a good sense of humor, and the ability to disagree agreeably. While it may not be the most important factor, certainly a healthy sexual relationship must be high on any such list.
Solomon emphasizes this truth in his warning against adultery in Proverbs 5. First, he details the terrible cost of unfaithfulness. You lose your strength (v. 9), your wealth (v. 10), your health (v. 11), and your reputation (v. 14). Is there any good news? Yes. Proverbs 5:15-18 says,
Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
God has given you a biblical way for handling the sexual drive within you. It’s called marriage. Verse 19 offers a graphic explanation: “A loving doe, a graceful deer-may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated [in the Hebrew this word means “intoxicated"] by her love.” Verse 20 gives the alternative, “Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man’s wife?” God has created a way that is better than looking at dirty movies. He has created a way that is better than going to some prostitute, a way that is better than looking at some cheap magazine, than flirting with someone else on the job. It’s called loving your wife. If you love your wife and enjoy her and her body, you will find release for what God has put within you. As man and woman come from the hand of almighty God, they come as male and female. Within that relationship, the sexual relationship of a man and woman is holy, righteous, pure, good, and ought to be enjoyed. That’s what the Bible says. To men who feel this tremendous sexual urge, don’t go running somewhere else; go back to the wife God has given you.
There you have the whole case for marital faithfulness. Stay home and enjoy your wife. Don’t be a fool and look at some other woman. Enjoy the wife you have. Let her body satisfy you. Be intoxicated with her love.
If you wonder about the propriety of that statement, I encourage you to read the Song of Solomon. It contains the Bible’s most detailed description of romantic love between a man and a woman. It is sensual, yet pure; frank, yet chaste; erotic, yet ennobling. Many couples would find their love life rejuvenated simply by reading the Song of Solomon out loud together. So how does a wife keep her husband satisfied? God has given you a way. Men, how do you stay satisfied? Solomon-who had great experience in this area-spelled it out. Enjoy your wife. And not just her cooking either.
Father, I thank You for creating the human race as male and female. When I am tempted to misuse Your gifts, remind me of the joy that comes from following Your plan. Amen.
If you are single, will you commit yourself to sexual purity in all your relationships?
If you are married, will you commit yourself to faithfulness so that you can enjoy your spouse as God intended?
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